A good book for feeding issues is Just Take A Bite by Lori Ernsperger, Ph. D. and Tania Stegen-Hanson, OTR/L
Check out the daily routine cards from Sesame Street!
http://autism.sesamestreet.org/daily-routine-cards/
http://autism.sesamestreet.org/daily-routine-cards/
For tips on establishing a toileting routine for your child, take a look at the tip sheet from the American Occupational Therapy Association. It is available in English and in Spanish.